“ Ma… I need my space”. This is one ‘standard dialogue’ that I tend to use every other day with my mother.
The other day we had a very ‘healthy’ discussion on a ‘disputed’ topic and I ended the conversation with the ‘standard dialogue’. The end was abrupt due to lack of balance on my phone. I further went on to recharge and call her in order to mitigate the tension with a few kisses and a good night – Happy ending I suppose!
Back to the ‘standard dialogue’ – What do I exactly mean when I say it? That there is a bit of ‘me’ that I would rather keep to myself, there are certain things that I would like to sort out internally in the highly disorganised part of ‘me’ called the mind, there is a part of me that finds happiness in being with only the ‘ me’ at times.
May be there are more definitions to it. But what stands out is the ‘ME’. I would rather not take this as being selfish or self-centred. I believe that needing one’s space is a way of dealing with oneself so that you can organise yourself. It is a must in every person’s life.
As I say that – I wonder how many of our mothers got that to say this to us after we were born – “Kid …..I need my space!’.
(a) We would have never accepted it!
(b) We would have never understood it!
(c) Our mothers would have never said it! They would never want a ‘space’ without us.
Conclusion: Mothers are from Mars. A different species altogether! Love them for what they are.
And maybe I will need lesser space if and when I become a mother!