Significant ‘few’ among the ‘many’ -Part II

6.20 p.m,November 30, 2012 -Seville

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As a continuation to my earlier post –https://poulosesarah.wordpress.com/2012/10/10/significant-few-among-the-many/

Mr. E – Talked over the phone for over a year before meeting! It is not flicked out of any movie. Believe it or not -it did happen! One hell of a friend!  One of the ‘bestest’ friend I have ever had and still remains. I still remember the first time we met. I had not seen him till then and he had come to meet me with a couple of his friends leaving me clueless as to who among  of them is Mr. E! I pointed out at every guy in front of me, only to realise that he is the one I left out!

Mr. F – We are very different. His his lifestyle, his views on issues, his taste in food – everything is radically different from mine. But we did bond! Sitting on the doorstep of the second class compartment on our train journey to Bombay and talking about life , is something I will always cherish!

Mr. G – Met him through a friend. She later became his lawfully wedded wife! He is one of the sweetest guys I have met till date. My admiration for him emanates from the beautiful relationship I see between him and the friend. As a lover, fiancé, husband, friend, companion in their relation – I give him ten on ten! I wonder if my friend feels the same?!. That apart  he has always been a great friend and wonderful to be with. I think our friendship over the years and I see it going steady and strong!

I am mentally trying to sketch and formulate my thoughts about two very significant men in my life. However I am unable to do so. May be that’s the beauty of the relationship ! Keeping that for another day when there is more clarity in this cluttered mind  🙂

I need my space?!

 

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“ Ma… I need my space”. This is one ‘standard dialogue’ that I tend to use every other day with my mother.

The other day we had a very ‘healthy’ discussion on a ‘disputed’ topic and I ended the conversation with the ‘standard dialogue’. The end was abrupt due to lack of balance on my phone. I further went on to recharge and call her in order to mitigate the tension with a few kisses and a good night – Happy ending I suppose!

Back to the ‘standard dialogue’ – What do I exactly mean when I say it? That there is a bit of ‘me’ that I would rather keep to myself, there are certain things that I would like to sort out internally in the highly disorganised part of ‘me’ called the mind, there is a part of me that finds happiness in being with only the ‘ me’ at times.

May be there are more definitions to it. But what stands out is the ‘ME’. I would rather not take this as being selfish or self-centred. I believe that needing one’s space is a way of dealing with oneself so that you can organise yourself. It is a must in every person’s life.

As I say that – I wonder how many of our mothers got that to say this to us after we were born – “Kid …..I need my space!’.

Possibilities:

(a)   We would have never accepted it!

(b)   We would have never understood it!

(c)   Our mothers would have never said it! They would never want a ‘space’ without us.

Conclusion: Mothers are from Mars. A different species altogether! Love them for what they are.

And maybe I will need lesser space if and when I become a mother!